It's been 40 years since this photo was taken. Where have the years gone?
Good gracious! Four decades!
I remember being amazed then when people told me they'd stayed together for 20 years.
I was worried because I thought that we were of different temperaments.
"What if we find we can't make it work?" I asked Art a few days before the wedding.
"We'll find a way to make it work," he assured me.
"But what if it still doesn't work?" I persisted.
"Then we'd have to part." he answered.
It was a logical answer. I don't know what I expected him to say. Maybe... "I'll always love you and we'll always be together. Don't worry about it."
But that's not Art. He is an engineer. He's always felt that if there's a problem, you have to define your needs and then find the solution.
So I suppose that's what has made the marriage work for these past four decades. We were able to define our needs together and solve the problems as they came up.
Oh... and there was also love... and a lot of fun.
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Good gracious! Four decades!
I remember being amazed then when people told me they'd stayed together for 20 years.
I was worried because I thought that we were of different temperaments.
"What if we find we can't make it work?" I asked Art a few days before the wedding.
"We'll find a way to make it work," he assured me.
"But what if it still doesn't work?" I persisted.
"Then we'd have to part." he answered.
It was a logical answer. I don't know what I expected him to say. Maybe... "I'll always love you and we'll always be together. Don't worry about it."
But that's not Art. He is an engineer. He's always felt that if there's a problem, you have to define your needs and then find the solution.
So I suppose that's what has made the marriage work for these past four decades. We were able to define our needs together and solve the problems as they came up.
Oh... and there was also love... and a lot of fun.
Many congratulations and here's to many more years together:-)
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary! What a beautiful bride and handsome groom. Ron and I will never have a 40th or 50th since we have only been together 14 years, so we celebrate weekly anniversaries. Every Tuesday is an anniversary of when we met and next Tuesday will be our 728th Anniversary:)
ReplyDeletesuch a beautiful photo, so much happiness, Congratulations on 40 years together,
ReplyDeleteCongrats to a great couple!
ReplyDelete(You both still appear younger, and have a whirlwind list of chores and adventures every week, so just tell folks you've only been together 25 years....unless your kids are hanging around.) Many more years to come!
DrumMajor
Awwww... You are too kind. It does feel pretty amazing that so many years have gone by.
DeleteMazal tov!! It must be the winning combination--love, fun, and engineering logic.
ReplyDeleteYou both look radiant in the photo. But Kay, what were you doing, taking off the wedding garter?
Oops! I should have added a caption. Yes, that was the garter belt throw. I believe he was being silly about lifting my skirt to remove the garter and I was saying something like, "Come on, Big boy. I know you can do it."
DeleteYou have the same smile and wear those four decades extremely well! If you had known then that the entire blogosphere would be following your every move, I'll bet you would have been amazed. Congratulations for having had these wonderful years together.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on 40 years of love and fun.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, reading about your family is a highlight of my day. My husband and I will celebrate 65 years of marriage in June. We are trying to get our children, grandchildren and greats all together at once and that is a job because there are 29 of them. I enjoy reading about
ReplyDeleteyour sweet mother and how active she is. Pat from Santa Barbara
Hello, Pat! It's so nice to meet you. I really appreciate your comment and kind wishes. Thank you so much!
Deletecongrats to a sweet couple-you're an inspiration to many!
ReplyDelete40 years of fun and kisses! Congratulations to Kay and Art.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary Kay! I love your attitude and know it will bring you many more happy years together.
ReplyDeleteI love this 'We were able to define our needs together and solve the problems as they came up.'
ReplyDeleteHAPPY ANNIVERSARY KAY and ART...many many more... hugs.. Michelle
Oh, a very Happy Anniversary to you and Art! You are both an inspiration and, yes, keep those wonderful smiles. Have a beautiful day and enjoy the memories as you begin the next 40!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy 40th! The years do go fast, don't they? Looking back, at the problems and concerns, they all seem so minor as the years roll on. Wishing you many more such celebrations.
ReplyDeleteYou are blessed!!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy Fortieth, Kay and Art!
ReplyDeleteCongrats Big Time for always finding a way and never having to resort to the last ditch-- "we will have to part" stage. You are an inspiration.
ReplyDeleteMany, many congratulations to you both. I agree with Art, you should never deny the possibility of having to part, that way you work even harder to ensure that it never happens.
ReplyDeleteThis is very true. It's helpful to know that you have to work at something to make it happen. You can't just expect it.
Deletesuch a long time! congrats
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!
ReplyDeleteBest wishes for many, many more fun years together!!
Mary L
Hello, Mary! Thank you very much! I'm all for the fun. I really appreciate your writing.
DeleteCongratulations. 40 years is a milestone, for sure. Tom and I will celebrate 44 years in March. I feel very fortunate in having chosen my life partner, and he choosing me, of course. He is my best friend. I feel sad for people who enter their "golden years" without that loving partner who shares the same history.
ReplyDeleteIt is rather wonderful to have a partner who knows me better than I know myself. Disconcerting at times too. (Notice I was careful not to say annoying.)
DeleteCongratulations! You and Art look like SUCH kids :-)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! How beautiful you look!
ReplyDeleteWonderful to reach this milestone. May you have 40 more.
ReplyDeleteNow that would be for the record books! :-)
DeleteIf there was ever a couple who was married for 80 years it would be you guys! You do so many things right....not hard to beat the odds.
ReplyDeleteL...w
Anyone who has ever seen the two of you together will know there was lots of love along with an engineer's pragmatism.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to both of you. We're very happy for you.
K
Lovely.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations, you hot chick, you!
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