I told her that I never detected a smell on her friend's husband at all and that I have many older friends and NONE of them have a stronger or odd odor. Sheesh! Frankly, I think that friend of the friend might have an olfactory disorder. I think younger folks who exercise and don't shower have a MUCH stronger smell!
|Tiffany and her grandmother|
"WHAT??!?!" My head snapped up from my cereal bowl. "Tiffany would NEVER in a million years say something like that to you! Neither of my children would!"
"No, she did. I remember," insisted mom.
Later in the morning, Tif Skyped me and I asked her if she told her grandmother that she stunk. Tif was floored!
"Of course not," said a very affronted Tiffany. Then she gave it some thought and remembered something. "I brought grandma some sachet for her clothes drawer last year. I saw that she was using moth balls because she liked the smell on her clothes. I told her the moth balls made her clothes stink and most people don't like it." (Did I mention that Tif has the memory of an elephant? She remembers everything.)
This is what it's like at our house. There is a rather interesting language gulf and it takes patience and understanding to bridge it. We always keep in mind that nobody would say anything to hurt anyone so that's off the table.
Art and mom understand maybe 70% of what the other person is saying. Art knows a smattering of Japanese words. Mom understands more English than you would think, BUT it's not always quite accurate. Even when they think they're understanding each other, I know they're not...really. I'm often having to translate to clarify and it's given us some great laughs since we've moved back to Hawaii because Art makes it a point to have conversations with mom every chance he gets. This is why she loves him so much!
It makes me think of world politics and the understanding it takes to have peace. I can easily see why it's so difficult with all the nuances of languages and customs. They must often think the other country stinks.