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Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Genealogical Obsession

I'm sorry I'm still so immersed in this project that I haven't been able to break away to do any blogging. My daughter laughed when she called and said, "You haven't changed, Mom. You get into these projects and that's all you think about day and night." It's true. I can't seem to help myself. Art has to remind me to eat or do anything other than my obsession.

I couldn't find a family tree template that would work for me so I had to design my own and then cut out little names and dates and glue them on the template with a toothpick and tweezers. This took me TWO days! I've also been e-mailing relatives in Japan for information and confirmation.

Just as I was getting pretty tired of it all, my cousin, Ellen e-mailed to tell me how much she was looking forward to seeing this and what it meant to her. Now, I'm energized again!

Here's a little something from their past.

It was 1945. Japan was in the last dying gasps of the war. They began drafting even older priests. My grandfather was ordered to report for duty. He was very anxious about leaving his family behind to go to what he felt would be his certain death. He called his family together and gave them his final words and his farewell.

He told them to always remember their family philosophy:
#1
Arigatai (Be thankful)
Mottainai (Never be wasteful)
Sumimasen (Humility)

#2 He admonished them to practice and perfect their penmanship because a person's personality is mirrored in their handwriting.

#3 Lastly, he begged them to always get along together and live in harmony, because in so doing they would be helping their mother when he could no longer be with them.

I've only spent a meager less than three weeks of my life with my grandfather in 1970 when I was a college student on my first trip out of the islands. (I must be honest in admitting that I wasn't jumping for joy when my mother told me that I must spend my ENTIRE free time of a six week trip/college credit course cloistered in a temple instead of adventuring with my friends.)

My grandfather had already been diagnosed with colon cancer but insisted on taking me to see the temple where he trained and other beautiful spots in Matsushima, Zao and Sendai. He seemed so awesome to me, wise, worldly, enlightened and yet he made sure to spend precious time with me and to encourage my artwork. I quickly got to know the rest of the family that I'd never really known existed and was in tears when it was time to leave. My birthday celebration, the day before my departure from Sendai was a pivotal point in my life... a birth of new realization that I had a family to love in Japan as well.

Now that I'm learning more about my grandparents, I'm happy to know what loving parents they were and what kind and good people I can call family.

19 comments:

  1. I'm exactly like you. When I'm into something it's all the way 24/7 until I tire of it and move on to something else. Have fun but don't forget us.

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  2. This project is of a very high importance and value ...take all your time and energy because it would be one of the best gift to the family .And i love to hear your stories.. Arigatai (Be thankful)
    Mottainai (Never be wasteful)
    Sumimasen (Humility) .....Thanks for sharing these wise words ...your grandfather must have been an extraordinary man.

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  3. Kay you are indeed blessed with good family all around. I think that's why I don't start many projects, I'd be the same way and it's quite a commitment, although worthwhile.

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  4. I'm the poster child for obsessive compulsive disorder. I do understand. Besides, you will tell us all about it when you're done!!!

    I can't wait!!!!

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  5. What a wonderful memory! Thanks for sharing it with us, Kay



    Aloha, Friend!


    Comfort Spiral

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  6. you certainly have the genealogy bug. There is a free program available on http://www.familysearch.org go to their home page on click on right side to download PAF or Personal Ancestral file. IT is very easy to use and will allow you to input your ancestor's names and dates then print them up in pedigree or family groups. Good luck with your project. Enjoying hearing of your progress.

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  7. I'm just the same Kay so I get it. What a wonderful detailed job you're doing and how fascinating what you've discovered already.

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  8. Well, I see I'm not alone either and that's comforting!! But this is such a great project, Kay, and it's going to mean so much, not only to you but for your children and grandchildren! I'm excited for you! And thanks for sharing this with us! It's terrific!

    Sylvia

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  9. You certainly carry on your grandfather's family values, Kay.
    There is also a Jewish tradition of writing an "ethical will" before you die. But I'm glad grandfather lived to continue his work after the war.

    The closest thing we have to a family tree is the ongoing one at geni.com.

    Keep up your good work! And eat.

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  10. How about writing a book about your family, including photos and anecdotes? That would be the culmination of your efforts.

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  11. Kay, the more I read, the more fascinating your family history is. There must be a book in it.

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  12. Fascinating, Kay - you have discovered so much already. Just remember to stop when your eyes start watering and your head is aching ;-)

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  13. You have an especially rich family history, Kay. How wonderful that you're taking the time to document it. You're creating a family treasure.

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  14. Your obsession is a marvelous one! I am sure when you are all done with it you will be so happy that you did it. And what a blessing you had in being able to spend time with your grandfather.

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  15. I also jump feet-first into projects and don't stop until I get bored of it. Just found your blog and really enjoying it. I look forward to your future posts.

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  16. Wow, and I knew you were lucky in your husband and kids -- your whole family's amazing. This project of yours is a treasure.

    After all your grandfather went through in his life, how wonderful it must have been for him to welcome his granddaughter and hear of all her plans for the future! I would think such a visit would make all the past suffering and sacrifices seem like nothing by comparison.

    I love history and memoir -- hearing yours has been fantastic.

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  17. Kay;

    You are as wonderful as your grandparents, they would have been so proud to see all that you are and all that you give to others.
    I bet they know!

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  18. Too involved to eat!? I don't know if I've ever been that hooked on a project, but they do keep me from snacking. That's a good thing.

    Your family has some amazing stories. It's wonderful that you had that time with your grandfather and your family in Japan. It makes your project all the more meaningful.

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  19. ..Thanks for sharing these wise words ...your grandfather must have been an extraordinary man.

    Work From Home

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