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Wednesday, February 17, 2010

The Agony is in the Details

I continue to struggle with my mother's past. It seems every other day, she gives me another part of her story that has me having to unravel what I've written in a section and reknitting the time line. Then I have to correct my timeline, stories I've written and the photo album information.

Just yesterday Art actually found a map on line of north Korea in 1945. It had the old Japanese names and the current Korean names. It was magical to suddenly see the mythical places my mother talked about as real locations. However, then we saw that what(we thought)she told us about them walking from Kanko which is now Hamhung to Fuson (now Buson)it didn't make sense. It's just not possible.

That's when she told me, "Of course, we didn't walk the entire way. There was a train that took us part way and then just dropped us someplace and we didn't know how to get to Fuson. We had to find guides to show us. It took us 10 days to walk to the 38th parallel dividing line for north and south Korea while suffering the after effects of typhus and diphtheria."

Granted my aunt says it was more like 20 days.

And on and on it goes... I just know that once I've printed the photos and stories out to everybody, they'll tell me something else that will change a portion of what I thought they told me and what they thought I already understood.

There's another amazing story I'll write later after I've done my work for today. I'm going to see if we can get over to my aunt's house to show her what I've done so far and get some confirmation on those agonizing details.

15 comments:

  1. Your mother and aunts are amazing, for what they've been through and for remembering it at all. Geeze, I can't even find my own passport or remember what day's my eye doctor appointment LOL

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  2. Trust me, as one who's done this sort of thing, I can promise you people will find fault, believe their story is correct over yours, etc. You can never get this kind of work acceptable to all. You'll never have all the facts to make it perfect. Do the best job you can and ignore the fault finders because there will be plenty who will appreciate your work. Consentrate on those.

    I had to move my blog to a new address. I hope you will follow me there. http://hillinlr.blogspot.com/

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  3. I agree with Linda. I have not done such detailed research on our families, but I have recently found cousins I never knew I had, and so many things I believed to be true, I have now found are different - or perhaps my beliefs were the correct ones? We will never really know. But it's worth trying to sort it all out and come up with the best we can. Contradictions can also be fascinating.

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  4. What you are doing is a wonderful act of pure love to your Mother and her sisters.
    I am still trying to get info out of my Mom, mostly confirmations of what I think I know. Unfortunitly then she rewrites history and I have to talk her back and she finally tells me that I'm right!
    So then I'm confused! Tisk!
    My Mom is the last of her clan!
    Good luck Kay, you're doing great!

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  5. Kay, that's how it is with word of mouth stories that are passed on from generation to generation. I'm sure it will come together beautifully.

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  6. I can't even imagine being able to do what you have and are doing! I do admire you so much for all the effort and love that is going into this.

    Sylvia

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  7. This will be such a treasure for your family! Great job you´re doing!

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  8. It's good you are double checking with other relatives besides your mother. There will be disagreements, I assure you.

    Remember my aunt who disputed my uncle's story about their father renting out the cottage to a pimp and prostitutes? That's what I mean.

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  9. what a great job you are doing. If there are discrepancies you can note in your history-mom remembers 10 days of walking while auntie believes it was 20 days. At least they agree that they walk for some period of time. I wonder if there were any news accounts of the time?

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  10. What a tedious job done out of love, and I think you will need to take the antidote medicine for brain overload...that would be chocolate!!

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  11. You've taken on a monumental task Kay, and I hope you can hear me clapping from way over here. It will be wonderful for your children and grandchildren to read all these stories. Your perseverance will win out.

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  12. You are really have fun with this aren't you? I'm so glad you have your mom and aunt to help you with details.

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  13. Wonderful endeavor, Kay.
    You'd probably enjoy Alan Brennert's novel HONOLULU.

    Aloha, Neighbor

    Comfort Spiral

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  14. I am so impressed by your labor of love project. How wonderful Kay that you are taking the time to do this for your family. And how fortunate that your mother has all these memories to share with you.

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  15. Try not to get too frustrated. Each person experiences events differently, even when they are standing side by side. And you can always go back and add footnotes!

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