One season, we finally came up with the perfect gift and that was nothing. Yup. We give each other nothing. In return, we receive a lot less stress. After the holiday, we go out and pick out something we'd both enjoy together. That is a lot of fun. Well, yes, most of the time it's what I really wanted but... gosh! Art says it makes him happy to see me happy and that's a gift for him. Do you buy that? Actually, Art never feels he needs anything. He says he doesn't want anything so it makes him happy if I want something. Isn't that great? Do I believe him? Yes, yes, I do, I do. He'd never lie to me.Can you tell I had nothing to post about today? Ah well... I'm trying to get better so I can finish my shopping. This being sick is not fun. I feel like it's gone on for so long I've forgotten what it feels like to be healthy. On top of that, I'm too tired to move around but not too tired to eat so I've gained 5 pounds in 6 days!
How many more days do I have left to get my shopping done? Arrrghhhh!
David and I give each other nothing also. I still have not worn the opal earrings he bought me several xmases ago. We don't need more stuff.
ReplyDeleteInstead, we prefer to go out to a fancy restaurant, so we save for dinners out. Suits us just fine!
As for being ill, yeah, been there done that! Mine lasted 9 days.
I have a daughter who for years will never tell us what she would like for her birthday or Christmas. She tells us (sincerely) that our love is enough for her. Sometimes I have taken her shopping for clothes, but even those are not meaningful to her. Relationships are. So, sometimes doing things together is the best gift for her.
ReplyDeleteFive pounds! What have you been eating? :)
ReplyDeleteYour story reminds me of an old rabbi in former days, of whom it is told that "he never [realized that he] needed any thing until he [already] had it."
Amoeba and I aren't exchanging gifts for a number of reasons. One is the move. Why buy something just to pay to have it shipped? Another reason is we don't wish to support the commercialism of Christmas. And a third reason is, we are people of few wants. We have no real wants (beyond furniture for our new home) and why buy junk just to say we exchanged gifts? We will buy furniture together after the move and be content.
ReplyDeleteIt's lovely if you both feel that way. We splurge at Christmas but we don't buy anything for our anniversary. When we were first married, we used our anniversary to buy something for the house but after 24 years, there's not much we're short of.
ReplyDeleteI hope you feel better soon. How is your Mum doing these days?
We don't exchange Christmas presents either; my husband just doesn't 'get' gift-giving at all so doesn't even try and I finally gave up!
ReplyDeleteI hope you feel better soon, and in time for a wonderful holiday!
This sounds like us. We almost always don´t give gifts to each other on Christmas, because we usually get something "bigger" when the need arises. But me, I can´t give nothing, so I usually buy him a little something. :)
ReplyDeleteHope you start to feel better soon!
Well, at least you have your appetite, that's a good thing when you're sick. Hope you get better in time for Christmas! Art's a treasure and so are you!
ReplyDeleteI am a little bit behind on reading, so I hope that you are feeling better soon. I'm gonna catch up right now!!
ReplyDeleteWe always say we are not going to buy gifts but always manage to buy something little, to have something under the tree. We buy so much for ourselves through the year it just seems funny to do it. Besides The Hubby is so very picky it is NEVER the right present but this year I may have done pretty good. I found an antique humidor at the flea market and it is beautiful. Hopefully he likes it....
ReplyDeletewell, we got new snow tires last year. Usually buy something major...this year I'm giving my hubby his biography and I wanted a new camera so we went shopping yesterday. But I do miss unwrapping surprises on Christmas but two of my four sons give me a present so that helps...get well soon.
ReplyDeleteit's fun exchanging gifts..
ReplyDeleteBob is better at giving me gifts than I am giving to him.
ReplyDeleteNow that we have a child in the family the adults don't worry about gifts because we have so much fun watching him with his gifts. We enjoy shopping for him.
I hope you're feeling better very soon, Kay! No fun being sick any time, but the holidays are the worst!
ReplyDeleteTake care and I hope you have a good weekend!
Sylvia
Tom and I do give each other gifts. We talk about ideas and make wish lists. So the gifts may not be too surprising, but they are wanted. And we do enjoy giving to each other.
ReplyDeleteWe really do go all out for Christmas, and there will be mounds of gifts under the tree Christmas morning for the nine of us to open.
Just love the equisite photo of a snowflake on your header photo. As for Christmas, Mark and I don't exchange gifts (we still do stockings for each other as well as for the kids)but we feel we have just what we need. Although I must confess we usually both break the rule and get "something" for the other, I got him a carrier for the canoe and the kayak, something he has wanted (and much needed)over the years. And no, he does not read any blogs so won't give it a way! He told me yesterday that he wanted to buy me a printer for photos but I would have to help him pick it out....hmmm...I might just take him up on that after the holidays. To Mark and I, enjoying the looks of our children's faces as they open their gifts (even at 30, 23 and 18)is truly the best gift ever. Plus seeing the excitement on our nieces faces when they open their gifts from us is a nice feeling!
ReplyDeleteMy ex wasn't good at buying me clothes either. My daughter caught on to that and insisted that she go with him so my gifts improved.
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At my age I don't want anything for Christmas. What I want for Christmas is priceless and as near as I can guess, I won't get it this year either.
Sigh.
When the kids were little, we Jesse & I exchanged gifts, and of course, I went crazy getting the kids just everything I could. It was such a delight to see their smiling faces when they opened their presents (from Santa too)! It got to where I would give Jesse a wish list, cuz... he just didn't... well, he just didn't know. lol
ReplyDeleteNow, I usually just buy stuff for US. Whatever we need that we will use. I get him something, and I get something for me. And, of course, It's up to me to get Alexis whatever she needs. I always ask, cuz, I can't seem to get it right either (haven't since she was 14). LOL
Although, I usually get us appointments for a mani/pedi and a massage so we can go together. I always look forward to that, since she is only here for a few days.
We usually do nothing..but this year I bought my husband some fencing equipment for our anniversary that he wouldn't buy for himself...
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