
I was thinking about by granddaughter, KC tonight and missing her and her parents. I looked through a collection of photos from August and saw this one. I was sitting on the floor by the front door waiting for my friend to pick me up to go line dancing. Two year old KC saw me sitting on the bare floor and brought over a pillow for me to sit on. Then she brought over another pillow, sat on it and waited with me.
I loved seeing her caring and thoughtfulness. I was proud of her, and wondered if it was her own natural empathy or was she somehow taught to be caring by her parents? Was she mimicking behavior she'd seen or did she figure it all out on her own?
I remember my first graders all being so different. Some were incredibly thoughtful and caring and others were very self absorbed. My own two children, raised in the same household are very different. Both are loving and caring but poles apart in so many ways. You'd think they were raised in different households. I guess I believe you are who you are from the moment you are born but you are taught to do the proper social cultural formalities. But then again, how does this explain the liberal versus conservatives?
Good grief? Where am I going with this? I think it's time for me to go to bed.
That is the *sweetest* photo and memory; I love it. My kids are very different too, and then I'm exactly like one of my sisters while together we're poles apart from another sister of ours (hard to believe we're even family!). So I think you're right about being hard-wired to be ourselves, to some extent.
ReplyDeleteYour granddaughter's thoughtfulness in sharing a pillow to wait with you is something special; two years old? Wow. It speaks volumes about her; and even more about what a special family she's growing up in. IMHO!
Kay, this is so adorable and what a beautiful memory to have!
ReplyDeleteIt's really hard to say if children mimic the behaviour they have seen or not... I am sure in some things it is possible for sure. For me, I have used my past as a way to teach myself and others to be the best person possible.
A beautiful post, it did indeed make me smile! =)
Chairman Mao tried the all or nothing at all and while the red book helped, and every farmer was smelting iron, the countryside ran out of fuel.
ReplyDeleteThank god for differences in all things. And your granddaughter's caring for others is a reminder of how we all should be.
But sharing with others is seldom a practice that is adopted by many. those who do share end up on the evening news.
Your post made me smile and I enjoyed it as well as the line dancing comment/photo.
KC is so caring even at a young age..
ReplyDeleteI have often thought about the 'nature vs nurture' theories. KC is beautiful!
ReplyDeleteNow you've started me thinking about my grandson. I just may post about him later today.
ReplyDeleteI so agree with you when you say "You are who you are" from the moment you're born - or conceived for that matter. Nature vs. nurture. Nature wins out every time.
Kay;
ReplyDeleteSweet story, it's so great to have pictures that remind us of events that could just slip by.
I think you remember my relationship with my brother, love him, but we are polar opposites in the way that we think on everything. Brought up together,raised by a single Mom.Who knows.
Tif is a wonderful Mom, like her mother and it looks like KC will be that way too.
Love your header picture too!
I think you need to enlarge this picture ...it is very cute and very special.KC is showing very positive and healthy signs here...you must be so proud of her.While my three years old son is always concerned about everyone in the family including the helps my daughter is not bothered ,she is extremely well mannered socially while he hardly cares,she can share anything with others while he hates if others touch his things...once he started crying when we gave some fresh veggies from our kitchen garden to our neighbor....one thing is common ,they really love each other a lot.
ReplyDeleteKay, I love that photo!!! Hugs for you missing your KC and your kids!
ReplyDeleteSo precious. I love it.
ReplyDeleteinteresting thoughts. I have 4 sons, 2 are like each other and the other two are opposites. I believe we all come to earth with our own personalities somewhat developed and then parenting intervenes but not on a blank canvas. You can see this in babies in the same family.
ReplyDeleteKay, you really were "musing" on this one.
ReplyDeleteBut grandchildren do provide us with a window on personality and parenting that we didn't see when we were caught up in parenting ourselves.
I Skyped with my grandkids yesterday and received pics via email of their activities. I was missing them too. Like your lovely little KC, they are both loving and caring, maybe because they are being raised with love and care. And yet they are also very different in other ways, as are my own two cxhildren.
Nurture vs Nature? or Nuture AND Nature.
It seems to me that babies are born with a certain temperament and personality. The nature vs. nurture controversy. Their lives depend on how they react to circumstances.
ReplyDeleteThat is indeed the "sweetest" photo and memory! I have four kids and they are all so totally different! Each of them are wonderful in their own way. Sometimes it was puzzling how they could have all had the same parents, raised in the same home and still be so different. But as you so wisely said, you are who you are from the very beginning!
ReplyDeleteEnjoy!
Sylvia
I was wondering when you would update your blog header photo! The new one's lovely as is the one with you guys sitting on the pillows. I like your late night thoughts, very valid points.
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet memory and a sweet photo. And sweet people!
ReplyDeleteAuntie Kay,
ReplyDeleteSure, that'd be great! We posted our big news last night on ours...it's fun to have it out in the open. :)
Love,
Maggie
Awe, KC is so sweet! I believe you when you say you miss her!
ReplyDeleteMy two girls are also very very different. I guess they take after their parents.... :)
I love the new picture on your header!
Isn't it wonderful to have those sweet memories to rely on when you are missing someone? I'm missing my daughter who lives several states away.
ReplyDeleteVery sweet picture.
What a lovely story! Make sure you remember to tell her about it when she's older.
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