And here's a photo from October of last year.
We have one little trick we use to keep our marriage on even keel. I know our kids think we're a little nuts but it works for us. Anytime one of us does something that irritates or upsets the other we say, "Oopsie!" The "Oopsie" encompasses a lot of things...a general amnesty. It means I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to hurt you. I'll never do it again. You'll forgive me won't you? Please don't be angry. I apologized so there needn't be anymore recriminations.
Sometimes it takes two "Oopsies!" but it does diffuse the situation right away. If we need further discussion, it will happen but the "Oopsie" also means you can't hold a grudge.
Once Art did something and said "Oopsie."
"No, you can't Oopsie your way out of this," I said.
"Oopsie," he insisted.
"But..."
"Oopsie, oopsie, oopsie," he chanted.
I finally burst out laughing and that was that.
Everybody has their own method for getting along with their significant other. This is one of ours.
Many congratulations on 36 years of marriage. We've been married for 30 years this June, and I know our sons are so grateful to have been brought up by two parents in a stable marriage. I love your 'Oopsie' idea - but I think it's the fact that you can still make each other laugh that's the key. Like all long term partners we have our ups and downs too, but laughing together evens everything out.
ReplyDeleteGreat pictures, then and now.
ReplyDeleteHappy anniversary and many more.
Congratulations!!!! And I love the photos -- you are a handsome couple and you can truly see the love you have in them.
ReplyDeleteYou are blessed to have found the love of your life. I envy you that. I hope you have a couple more decades together.
Happy Anniversary!! Wow! 36 years! That's truly wonderful. I have a friend at Meals on Wheels that says 'Oopsie' whenever something goes wrong. Now I will think of you! And thanks for getting our great blogging family started. You are terrific. Art is pretty lucky.
ReplyDeletewhat a neat idea...love the humor of it. I would say a love and relationship like yours should last forever...great photos-congrats.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! You're both so lucky--and I wish you many more together!
ReplyDeleteKay, Happy 36th Anniversary! I loved the "Oopsie" story! That is great! Also I have given you the Lemonade Award, so go to my blog and check it out!
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ReplyDeleteCute story, Kay! Congratulations on your wedding anniversary. David and I will celebrate our 29th in June. Though I got married rather late in life, these 29 years have been sweet.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations. It is wonderful. The Hubby and I will celebrate 33 years on the 23rd. It's not easy but so worth it. Again congratulations to you both.
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ReplyDeleteWhat a great picture, I remember you with long hair...Congratulations on 36 years...may you have double that amount to come.Yes I said double!
This is terrible, but I was confused remembering how many years Jimmy and I have been married after reading your blog this morning. Don't tell Jimmy on me, cause i tease him about his memory!
BTW...38 this year...
Happy Anniversary! You both look wonderful--then and now. Next month hubby and I will hit 41; we were very young and foolish back then, but we've managed to hang in there and grow up together.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes for many more years and not too many Oopsies.
Congratulations on 36 years of marriage! How wonderful is that?! Certainly something to be proud of. It always sounded like you and Art shared a beautiful relationship. You are both very fortunate and I love the pictures!! You look like you belong together!!
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, congratulations! Secondly, your photos are beautiful and you are two beautiful people! Thirdly, I love the Oopsie idea! I'm so very happy for both of you, you're both wonderful people who deserve all the joy and beauty and love the world has to offer.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great marriage you two have and the photos show it all. I loved the "Oopsie" story and this is a wonderful post to celebrate the love two very special people have for each other. Congratulations on your 36 year anniversary.
ReplyDeleteThat is such a cute idea! One idea I've passed on to the boys is that you never go to bed/or leave the house angry. If you have to stay up all night to talk things out, then do it. And always ALWAYS, when you leave the house/go to bed or whatever; give a hug, a kiss and/or say I love you...and mean it. These ideas go to all loved ones, not just spouses.
ReplyDeleteAnd HAVE a sense of humor...that will get you through just about anything.
If "Oopsie" got you through 36 years, I think it's great! I'm sure there was more than that. It makes me very happy to hear of a good marriage like that. Ralph and I had only half that long before we lost him, but we used to talk about "when we've been married 50 years". It would have been 50 in 2007. So keep on using "Oopsie". You'll be fine for at least another 14, I'm sure, and then some!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Kay and Art. And can I say you both do not look much different after 36 years together. Oopsie obviously works!
ReplyDeleteWarm wishes to you both. What a wonderful trick-the "oopsie"! And you haven't changed much through all those years. Many, many more years to come.
ReplyDeleteWhat sweet photos of then and now. Congratulations on 36 years! We've reached 34, and it's still fun most of the time. "Oopsie is such a cute way of asking forgivenenss.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on 36 years of a loving relationship. I think having such a life partner to share all of the oopsies is the most wonderful blessing anyone can have.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your 36 years. Marriage obviously suits you both you look so happy and "right" together. Thanks for sharing the oopsie story.
ReplyDeleteHappy Belated Anniversary! Both photos are lovely and you two look very happy. I love the 'oopsie' idea and I know that laughter can be a bridge to understanding ;--)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on 36 years together ... may there be many more ahead.
Hugs and blessings,
I love that oopsie thing. I wonder if we could start it now, that we, also have been married 36 years? We were married in August of '72. Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteI heard a long time ago that in order for a relationship to work, both parties must put in 60% of the work. I think that's true. I've also just been very fortunate in finding a fellow who is willing to compromise and wants me to be happy. He's just happy as a clam that I do the thank you notes.
ReplyDeleteHappy anniversay Kay!
ReplyDeleteA very Happy Anniversary to you and Art and you haven't changed a bit!!! I love using 'oopsie'..I wish I had thought of something like that..
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