Art and I celebrated our 36th wedding anniversary yesterday. It's hard to believe we've been married for such a long time. There was a time I thought 10 years was pretty good. Here's an old photo I just dug up from 1972 a few months before we married.
And here's a photo from October of last year.
We have one little trick we use to keep our marriage on even keel. I know our kids think we're a little nuts but it works for us. Anytime one of us does something that irritates or upsets the other we say, "Oopsie!" The "Oopsie" encompasses a lot of things...a general amnesty. It means I'm really sorry. I didn't mean to hurt you. I'll never do it again. You'll forgive me won't you? Please don't be angry. I apologized so there needn't be anymore recriminations.
Sometimes it takes two "Oopsies!" but it does diffuse the situation right away. If we need further discussion, it will happen but the "Oopsie" also means you can't hold a grudge.
Once Art did something and said "Oopsie."
"No, you can't Oopsie your way out of this," I said.
"Oopsie," he insisted.
"Oopsie, oopsie, oopsie," he chanted.
I finally burst out laughing and that was that.
Everybody has their own method for getting along with their significant other. This is one of ours.