
We went to the Salvation Army today to donate a dinette set. We had to drive to the back of the building in Waipahu where I grew up to deliver the table and chairs. Waipahu used to be a thriving sugar plantation town when I was growing up. I suppose we were poor but we didn't know it.
When I looked across the fenced parking lot I noticed a burned out building and memories flashed through my mind. That building was the plantation clinic where all the workers and families went for their care. There were two doctors, Dr. Noda (known to give injections) and Dr. Maffei (who liked to give pills). Guess which doctor I preferred?
I was a very gawky, country girl in those days (I still am in my heart). I must have been a middle schooler when chasing after my younger brother one evening, I fell and cut my knee on a broken piece of glass that was buried in the ground. The cut was deep and dirt filled.
I was driven to the clinic (emergency room) and examined by a nurse. About 45 minutes later, Dr. Maffei arrived. He was dressed in a white tuxedo and had obviously been called away from some higher society event. I'd never seen a white tuxedo before. With his blond hair he looked like Robert Redford but even more handsome. I was mortified that I'd called him away from some fancy ball or whatever to tend to my battered knee.
Not once did he ever show any disappointment or consternation at having been called away. He joked about my having a more difficult time now to win the Cherry Blossom Queen contest. I was shocked. Did he even think I had a chance? It's funny to think about it now from an adult point of view. He explained everything he was doing to my knee, keeping up a steady stream of quips to make me laugh and kindly sent me home all patched up. I wondered if he would be able to make it back in time to his social world.
Forty or so years later my mother mentioned how her friend's friend was doing some work for Dr. Maffei. I was stunned to hear the name. Being Hawaii, friends of friends or cousins can get you in touch with people you'd not seen in decades. I wrote to Dr. Maffei to tell him about that evening and what an impact it made on me...how he helped me through that evening and gave me a bit more confidence in that in between stage of my life. And yes, I mentioned how handsome he looked in his white tuxedo.
I got a long letter back from him a couple of weeks later which I treasured but can't find now. I think it's gotten stored away in some box somewhere. Seeing that burned out building reminded me of Dr. Maffei and his kindness and all the people in my past who did so much in all their different ways to make a difference in mine.
You doctor reminds me of my baby doctor who used to make house calls and took care of my daughter till his death when she was 15. They don't make them like that anymore.
ReplyDeleteIt can be lovely or sad looking back to those moments in our lives that somehow added or took away something and yet gave a special meaning, to a lovely memory or even a painful one, but always with an impact. Your doctor sounds like one of the lovely ones.
ReplyDeleteThat is a lovely memory. Sad that the clinic has come to such a terrible end. Isn't strange what things stir up in the old memory banks.
ReplyDeleteOh Kay, I love your lifelong attitude of gratitude. And you always pass on the gift of what others have given you, like the good Doctor. "Poor but didn't know it," yeah, me too but my young life was made rich by certain teachers, friends, and Rabbi who made all the difference.
ReplyDeleteAnd like you, I told them so, wrote, while they were alive.
Thanks for the glimse into your childhood.
It can so often be a bitter-sweet experience going back to places one remembers from childhood, but your visit has stirred up such a good memory. What a pity though that the clinic came to such a sad end.
ReplyDeleteI loved reading this post Kay. I also think it was a wonderful thing you did to write to Dr Maffei. We don't do that enough. Teachers, doctors, friends, sports coaches - whoever it happens to be that influences us in a positive way. I think you did better than winning the Cherry Blossom Queen contest you are wonderful person who has a very positive attitude to life and this is reflected in your writing. Your post made me think of people who have touched my life in a similar way. Great post.
ReplyDelete40 or so years have passed? Dr. Maffei must be in his 70s or 80s then. What a wonderful person to put you at ease while tending to your wound and, not only that, to respond to your letter.
ReplyDeleteRecently, I sent my third book to a doctor at Castle Medical Center. He treated my sister-in-law, who died in ICU, and I wrote about him in my book. I have yet to hear from him...
I wrote that letter to him about 6or 7 years ago. I can't remember when exactly. I think he lives in Aiea somewhere... at least I hope so.
ReplyDeleteI forgot to say I'm sorry that ICU doctor did not show his appreciation for your kind gesture. I did a post about thank you letters a few months ago.
ReplyDeleteWhat a blessing such doctors are, and what a wonderful memory of him.
ReplyDeleteI have such admiration for doctors and teachers especially, because every day they go to work they can have such a lasting impact on their kids. When I was about thirty I went back to my old school to find out addresses for two teachers who'd had a tremendous impact on my life, and I wanted to thank them--but they'd both died! I'm so glad you were able to thank Dr. Maffei and share your memory with him. For him to write such a long letter back shows how much it must have meant to him.
Kindness is such a powerful thing. I love this story.
Reminds me of my sweet Dr. Muldoon. I called him Dr. Dooney. Such a sweet man and he could always find a quarter behind my ear. I still have his obituary that I clipped and placed in my scrapbook.
ReplyDeleteKay, this was a very lovely post about your Dr. Maffei. You were so kind in writing him, imagine how wonderful he must have felt to receive such a kind letter! It has made me pause to think about how many letters I could and should write! Your lovely gesture has truly made an impact on me. Thank you for sharing.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it funny how things like that affect us? I think it's great that you wrote to him and that he wrote back. Tells me that he's just as special as you thought he was.
ReplyDeletethanks for sharing a sweet story of your growing up times. I think we all felt awkward and embarrassed at that age. how kind of him to try to ease your fears and heal both body/knee and spirit at the same time. Wonderful that you wrote him a letter...
ReplyDeleteThat's a lovely story of a wonderful memory.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed this post. It's a wonderful feeling to be thankful even after so many years. I love your attitude of gratitude. :-)
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely piece of memory. The building looks so sad, it broke my heart after reading the story. You should find that letter Kay. I would love to hear about it. You did something that most people only think about; getting in touch with those that made an impact and letting them know how thankful we are.
ReplyDeleteI wonder what he was feeling after reading your letter?
Kay;
ReplyDeleteHaving had a not so great experience with the first oncologist that I had...your story brought back very fond memories of the Dr's that I had when I was young....thank you
This story certainly stirred some fond memories for me. Thanks for reminding us of the people who have impacted our lives like Dr. Maffei did yours.
ReplyDeleteVery nice Kay!
ReplyDeleteWhat a great story you shared with us, Kay! I was hoping that Dr. Maffei sent you a picture so we could all see if he aged well!! It's interesting the impacts people have on our lives, unbeknownst to them. On the flip side, we never know what impression we may be making on someone as well.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed reading this. I hope you have a wonderful holiday season, Kay! Thank you for being my blogging friend!!
That was so, so nice, and beautifully written. You do have a gift for writing and for living, Kay.
ReplyDeleteThis is a nice post, Kay. I really enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing.
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