With the ocean in front of them and his family behind him, my nephew, Barry, affectionately known as Bear was married to Miho yesterday under a glorious Hawaiian sky. It was simple and about as inexpensive as you could make it but it carried a lot of weight, warmth and above all... love.
I can't begin to express what a marvelous person Bear is. From the time he was born, he was warm and cuddly. He puts everyone's needs before his own. I still remember last year when my son, Jon came for a short stay, Bear rushed over through traffic and heat after a tiring day at work to visit with his cousin before he left.
When I heard that he and Miho would be married by a judge in a short ceremony, I wished for something more "special" for him. That was silly of me. As we stood with them in the glowing sunset I could see that this was incredibly special because he and Miho are special. It was the moment that was special. The judge, dressed in his robes with a Hawaiian flavor made sure that the ceremony would have all the grandeur, humor and beauty it deserved.
I've seen a lot of marriages that started with extravagant, expensive weddings fail. I have as much hope, best wishes and expectations for happiness for Bear and Miho as I would if they'd spent a million dollars on their wedding.
The wedding cake was the toasted ice cream specialty of the restaurant. It was as beautiful as any $1,000.00 luxury cake amidst the laughter and friendship surrounding them.