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Monday, May 26, 2008

My Favorite Brother


My younger brother, Dennis is my only brother but he would have been my favorite if I had a hundred of them. Because of the joy of our relationship, I wanted the same thing for my children. It worked out perfectly. My son is three years younger than my daughter and their closeness is very similar to what my brother and I share. My husband is 4 years younger than his only sister. We find a lot of humor in that her name is Kay also.

My brother and I do not look alike. We are very different in temperament as well. I tend to be the Leo that I am. He is gentle, kind and always forgiving. He will go the extra mile for anybody who needs his help. I only have to hint, and he will come to my aid.

But life has not been entirely kind to him. His marriage was strained after many years of having to work two jobs and helping to raise three sons, his eldest being born blind with retnoblastoma. They divorced but he and his wife have since remarried and it’s looking happy again as they both enjoy the challenge of fishing although there’s not a lot of fishes in Hawaiian waters these days.

He’s spent all the years that we’ve been gone in Illinois taking care of our parents. Whenever they’ve needed him, he has taken time off from work to meet their needs. I think he’s looking forward to us returning so that he can have more free time with his family.

Although Fate gave him the short end of the stick on some things, he did get the good teeth, the big brains, the artistic talent, the photographic talent, the strength, the good sense of direction, the better carpentry and wood working skills, better cooking skills, better writing skills and much more, so I think he’s been quite lucky as well. Hmmm… he’s also got a loving sister and I think I’m his favorite sister.

13 comments:

  1. What a lovely tribute to your brother. He sounds like a very kind, loving man.

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  2. Hello! He sounds like a wonderful man and brother. You say that your brother has all these fine qualities. I think he got them from his sister. His favorite sister. I am glad that you are moving closer to him and his family. Lisa

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  3. As an only child I always wanted a brother. This tribute to your brother just reinforces that desire. I'm sure you will be so happy to be moving back closer to him.

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  4. What a lovely tribute to your brother!

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  5. Your brother sounds like a wonderful man. And I love the photo of you two!

    I am one of four girls. I always wanted a brother.

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  6. This is a gorgeous tribute to your brother. He sounds like a lovely, loving person.

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  7. Love the picture and the idea of circular lives -- back to your beginnings and parallel lives-- your husband's. Looking forward to hearing all about the happy homecoming!

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  8. Aren't brothers great. I'm sure that being back near your brother and your parents will be wonderful. He sounds like the best kind of person and someone who you can always depend on. Somehow, I think that if we asked him about you he would be using the same superlatives in his description.

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  9. Oh Musings, what a cutie you are in this picture. And your face is the same today. :)

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  10. I love the way you have written about your brother. It is so vivid I can picture it in my mind. I'm sure he will be thrilled when you get there.

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  11. how nice you can be closer to your brother and support him in caring for your mother. liked your photo from our childhood. isn't the camera a wonderful invention to capture our memories and renew them again and again.

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  12. When I read your previous post I can see that you love your family a lot. The huging posts is very interesting. I am brought up just like you, but now everything is changing here in Norway. We hug a lot more. I hug my children when they come home to visit, but I never saw my mother hug her parents. I know she loved them a lot. Me and my sisters were huged when we were children, but not as adults. My mother gets lots of hugs from her grandchildren and she loves it.

    A nice day and a hug to you from me :)

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  13. Your brother sounds like my sister who is very good to my parents. How lucky we are when we have someone who has shared knowledge of childhood so we can reminisce.

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